The Guitarist - Compromise ❤

When your friends, are going out to listen to live music? You join them.

Britt loved/loves live music. Although she doesn't play any instrument, her love for music and dancing remains one of her most enjoyable assets.

Today her work desk isn't a traditional desk. It is an upright piano with the ability to transform into a piano by night or when the mood strikes her. Britt's past has a soundtrack, and so will her future forevermore.

Being in her mid-20s by this point, Britt was ready to think about settling down. Finding that one feller who would respect her, be there for her, encourage her and love her right where she was at.

She met a guy one fateful evening in November. He was a very savvy guitarist for a stellar local jazz band. The Guitarist was older than she. He was wiser, and they shared the same soft and gentle souls. So much so that they even shared the same birthdate. Not the year since he was older.

They were slow to move and take things on through the holidays. They laughed, dated, and shared so many beautiful moments from November thru to Valentine's. It was lovely. Just lovely.

Appearance-wise he stood 6' 2" and looked like he could take down the roughest and toughest. When in reality, he was gentle, thoughtful, and kind.

So much laughter and events occurred during their time together. They traveled, shared each other's spaces, and in time moved in together. It was then things got "real."

When you first meet someone, you hit the highlights of your desires in life (so you think they are). Then you work towards them together as a pair. After many fun adventures, it came down to one evening lying in bed when The Guitarist looked at Britt and said, "I don't think kids are in the cards for my future.". Wait, what?

Britt laid her book down and looked back at him in silence. Her head told her, "she's not ready to compromise that out of her future" since she was in her mid-20s. The idea of becoming a mother was what society asked you to do by a certain point and time, right? She already felt the pressure to bring a person around for the holidays. Consistently. Britt wasn't willing to settle for less than what was destined for her. Where she had standards, society made her feel she was broken.

Britt had tears in her eyes, looked to her right into his, and said, "That's the thing. That's the thing that won't allow this to work.".

She and the Guitarist sat up, discussing it all. The reasons made sense to her for him. She wasn't willing to shut that door on her potential future.

Our heads and our hearts tell us to do opposing things. However, our gut tells us to do what's needed at that specific moment. Britt rolled over and silently cried herself to sleep that evening, knowing her world with this lovely human was coming to an end.

Within a few weeks, Britt moved out on her own once again. She began a long journey of dating stillness and grew emotionally in spiritual ways.

As time went on, The Guitarist and Britt remained friends, and he wasn't willing to have children years after when the desire to rekindle things surfaced. Fate has a different plan for each of us. The Guitarist did end up getting married and having a child. Britt is sincerely happy for them.

In life, "If it's meant to be, it'll be.".

What is awaiting you is worth it. Don't settle for anything less.